It will be apparent from the previous article that it is difficult to draw really close to Yah.

Some months ago I reported that Yah had stated that on earth today there were only about 5,000 anointed believers who were in any way at all making a difference on earth and that of these 5,000 only a very small number were making a real impact.

In the months since then I have had contact with a number of people who Yah has indicated are part of the 5,000 and it is alarming to realize how little most of us are doing for Yah in this age, myself included.

I find it distressing that I am doing so little and yet Yah says I am closer to Him than most, primarily because I am making a serious effort to walk in the revelation that I have with regard to the Ten Commandments and the true names, the Sabbaths, etc.  From this I infer that similar comments apply to most of this group.

Many of the 5,000 are not even getting those basics right – the names, Sabbaths, etc.

At this stage, overall, it is apparent that the forces of darkness are winning hands-down – even most of those who have been or are anointed and even most of those who are performing sign's and wonders are NOT part of the 5,000 because of critical errors in their knowledge {doctrine} around things like the names, etc with the result that while they think they are serving Yah as "God" they are actually serving Satan as mighty one (god).

Perhaps the most challenging statistic that I have been given is as follows:

1. Of the 5,000, 7 out of 8 are women.

2. Of the men, only two are single but have no intention of marrying and the rest (623) are in covenant {marriage} relationships.  Most of these men are in covenant with women who are NOT part of the 5,000 and many are being dragged down by this unequal yoking.

3. Of the women, half (2,187) are in covenant union {marriage} and the other half are single.  Most of those in covenant union are joined to men who are NOT part of the 5,000 and many are being dragged down by this unequal yoking.  Most of those men will NEVER form part of the 5,000.

4. Of the single women about half (1,094) have an aspiration of being in a life-time covenant union with a man and the other half have given up and dedicated their lives to serving Yah only.

5. By virtue of the statistics above, those women who are seeking a man will either give up or join themselves to a man who is almost certain to be unsuitable and who will draw them away from Yah – there are not many single men in the ranks of those who are just outside the 5,000 cutline either.

The challenge then, if you are one of the single women in the roughly 1,100 listed above who are seeking a man, and there are quite a few single women on this list, is what to do.

The obvious solution is provided in Isaiah 4:1 which states that in the last days seven women will cling to one man BUT, from harsh experience I have to tell you that the women of this age cannot share their man, no matter how anointed they are, no matter how certain they are that sharing is Yah's will they just cannot do it as a consequence of early childhood programming which makes a woman whose man goes to another woman a REALLY BAD person.  The deep seated toxic psychological responses are intense!

The best advice I can give if you are one of these women is to let go of your desire for a man, dedicate yourself totally to Yah and ask Yah to take away your sexual desire.  Instead, form a close friendship with one or more women who are also close to Yah and satisfy your need for companionship this way.

Conclusion

There is a major gender imbalance in the body of true believers today – there are FAR MORE women than men in this group characterized most dramatically by those who make up the 5,000 anointed believers who are having some impact on the forces of darkness.

Single women are advised to remain single and not seek a man and to ask Yah to remove their sexual desire.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

For many years I have battled with an issue that few believers understand and one that those who do have some revelation on generally understand incorrectly – the matter of harmony versus division and hindrance in a spiritual house, primarily with reference to the one-flesh house between a man and his woman or women.

The principle applies to any man and his woman {wife} or women {wives}.  It is used by Satanists and those not following Yah to great positive effect and it is obstructed by the forces of darkness in those who believe in Yah to great negative effect.

I continue to be contacted by men who have a revelation of the true names, the true Sabbath, the true nature of the book {bible}, the true nature of Yahooshua {Jesus}, etc and who are in desperate financial straits.

This article is directed primarily at you.  If you are really seeking to serve Yah AND are in great financial lack this article is for you.

One of the verses believers love to quote is Matthew 18:19 "Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven." KJV

This agreement is generally taken as a casual "We agree? Right?" sort of thing along the lines of "we agree so that settles it, Yah must do it".

Fact is that is NOT what the word translated "agree" means.

The word translated agree is, in fact, the Greek word "sumphoneo" which is also the source word for "symphony", see below:

AGREE, AGREEMENT

A. Verbs.

1. sumphoneo (‎sumfwne/w‎, NT:4856), lit., "to sound together" (sun, "together," phone, "a sound"), i. e., "to be in accord, primarily of musical instruments," is used in the NT of the "agreement" (a) of persons concerning a matter, Matt 18:19; 20:2,13; Acts 5:9; (b) of the writers of Scripture, Acts 15:15; (c) of things that are said to be congruous in their nature, Luke 5:36.

Note: Cf. sumphonesis, "concord," 2 Cor 6:15,#, and sumphonia, "music," Luke 15:25. from Vine's Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words, Copyright © 1985, Thomas Nelson Publishers.

Sumphoneo captures a concept of two people who agree absolutely about something who pray the SAME prayer, to the same tune (heart attitude), with the same words, in harmonized key – in other words a prayer that RESONATES with Yah because of the DEEP ALIGNMENT of those praying and which therefore move Yah to action.

This sort of concerted, harmonized prayer by two people very seldom occurs.

This passage has a particular bearing on the prayers of a single house, a man and the woman or women that are one-flesh with him.

Before discussing this in detail I must stress that you should read the article some months ago relating to the one-flesh bond and resolve all illegal one-flesh bonds, pray for cutting off of one-flesh bonds with ex-husbands and ex-wives or lovers, etc bearing in mind that the cutting of a one-flesh bond is an act of Grace by Yah and the prayer will ONLY be granted if it is viewed as legal in the Court of Heaven.

While a man has one-flesh bonds with women who are not rightly in covenant with him or where he is joined to a woman who has one-flesh bonds with other men the principles addressed in this article in terms of harmony will NOT WORK – but the divided house WILL work.

Clean up your one-flesh house first, then seek harmony within the resulting clean and righteous one-flesh house.

The opposite of harmony is division.

In Mark 3:25 it is written "And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand." KJV

Notice the absolute word "cannot", it is not about maybe it is about CANNOT.

So, IF you have dealt with all your inappropriate one flesh bonds AND you have dealt with all major sin, which means that your teaching {doctrine} is right in all major areas, specifically relating to compliance with the Ten Commandments AND if you are working hard and marketing hard and you are industrious and produce quality work and there is still no money then the last place to look is "a house divided against itself CANNOT stand".

After eighteen years of experience with this and eighteen years observation and revelation of it I have to state categorically that if you are a man joined to one or more women AND you have really dealt with all external one-flesh bonds AND all major sin then it is almost certain (with a certainty Yah says of greater than 98%) that your woman or women are NOT in harmony with you.

Thus you need to understand what "harmony / symphony" is and you need to do whatever you need to do to achieve harmony in your house on a sustainable basis.  As long as you fail in this endeavour you will be in lack – it is as simple as that!

Conversely if / when your woman or women come into harmony with you you WILL PROSPER – the shift can be dramatic and nearly instant.  On one occasion, as I was learning about this, within 24 hours of an illegal one-flesh bond being cut I obtained an order worth US$61,000 that had been eluding me for nearly a year!

Note that in this age amongst those whose roots are in Christianity it is virtually impossible for more than one woman to be in harmony with one man.  I have tried it, Yah asked me to covenant with seven women and it nearly destroyed me until I eventually asked to be released from that assignment and from those women and to be permitted to enter into monogamy.

Even in monogamy harmony is NOT EASY!

It requires considerable concerted effort and that will be the primary focus of the remainder of this article – harmony in a monogamous union.

It is vital to understand that harmony and division are a powerful factor BEYOND SIN!

What do I mean by beyond sin?

I mean that even if you have dealt with all sin in your house and there is NO OTHER BASIS for the forces of darkness to keep you in lack, keep you from Yah's promises, etc you will STILL be in lack if your house is divided.

Furthermore, harmony and division operate BEYOND FAITH!

What do I mean by beyond faith?

I mean that even if you both have GREAT FAITH, have a deep revelation of Yah's provision, that He WILL supply ALL your need according to HIS riches in Glory by the anointing that was upon Yahooshua (the anointing on you) and your house is divided you will STILL be in lack.

Conversely, if you have real resonating aligned harmony and you are in DEEP SIN, are serving Satan and have NO FAITH you will still prosper!

This factor is intensely powerful!

The phenomenon of sumphoneo or harmony has a spiritual dimension to it, a dimension which in my experience is "as hard as concrete" AND which is immediately visible in the spirit realm.

A man and woman who are in sumphoneo will, in the spirit have their spirits perfectly lined up next to one another pointing in exactly the same direction, singing exactly the same tune with the same words to a harmonized beat – they will be resonating together in a way that the entire spirit realm can see – like two magnets perfectly lined up together so that they magnify the magnetic field around them in an exponential way – the phenomenon of "one can put a thousand to flight but two can put ten thousand to flight" (as opposed to "two can put two thousand to flight") will be immediately apparent.

Thus, a man and woman can THINK they are aligned but the spirit realm can see the truth.

A woman who is pulling in a direction different to her man will be seen in the spirit realm to be in opposition, misalignment, out of synch, … with him no matter what she says.

This gives the forces of darkness a licence to take that couple apart financially irrespective of sin or faith or other factors.

The application to the Court of Heaven is very simple "the house is divided therefore we seek leave to cause the house to fall by attacking its finances" is the charge to be brought before the Court and, except in the case of young and inexperienced believers the Court will always grant the request.  Once this petition is granted the Spirit of Yah has to STAND BACK and stop trying to bless the house financially!

So, if you are a man joined to a woman or women and there is lack, THIS is the place to look!

Man, do all that you can to make it easy for your woman to submit to you and be in harmony with you – cut out unacceptable behaviour, be considerate, demonstrate concern and care for your woman, treat her as the weaker vessel, be tender towards her, do NOT go chasing after wild and weird doctrines.

Woman, do all you have to do to come into alignment – see below.

What is hindrance?

Hindrance and hindering spirits are the mechanism that the forces of darkness use to give effect to the judgment to cause the divided house to fall.

Hindering spirits deploy in every area where you may receive finances, clients, donors, friends, family, etc.

A hindering spirit will cause things to go wrong so that money that has been promised by a donor gets delayed or used up for other purposes.

They will cause a client who is enthusiastic about your services and promises to place an order to get distracted or have things happen that cause them to either delay the order or never place it.

People get to understand that "there is something wrong with …, everything associated with them seems difficult, slow, there are always problems" and they stop doing business with you or stop associating with you.

People who promise to pay you by a certain date find that something happens to delay the payment, a signatory is taken ill, called out to an unexpected meeting, has to leave early, etc and suddenly money that seemed guaranteed is delayed.

These are but a few examples.

When your finances and affairs are being hindered it is like running in thick mud, you put in huge amounts of effort and go nowhere or go backwards.

You cry out to Father, pray prayers of faith, make faith confessions, give offerings, tithe, but the orders and the money do not come in or they are delayed or they are reduced, there is never enough, you are constantly making arrangements with creditors, unable to buy promised gifts, downgrading your financial expectations.

Then, if you come into some degree of alignment things can change overnight and orders can come in, money can come in, things just FLOW all of a sudden and then it can flip over to division and loss just as quickly again if you do not understand what is happening and do not manage it effectively.

The important thing to realize is that like sumphoneo (harmony) hindrance works for anyone but it is concentrated on those who are really seeking to serve Yah.

Remember that it is written that those who are teachers are subject to a harsher judgment.  Thus, those who are truly seeking to serve Yah, that means with the true names, NOT worshipping Yahooshua, observing the true Sabbath, NOT worshipping the book, etc WILL be more closely scrutinized and are much more likely to be subject to hindrance than run-of-the-mill pagan Christian believers who worship Jesus, use the wrong names, worship the book and observe Sunday as Sabbath, observe Christmas, etc.

Thus, if you have come out of the latter condition into the former state EXPECT that you will be judged more severely and that the forces of darkness will pull out all the stops to prevent you prospering – they want you to be so busy battling to survive that you cannot share what Yah has given you to share let along achieve the things that Yah has called you to achieve.

Throughout hindrance be prepared to keep your head down working on what Yah has called you to do!

It takes a LOT OF EFFORT and a large number of demons and fallen messengers to obstruct the finances of someone who is actively serving Yah AND actively engaging in whatever activities Yah has appointed for them to engage in in order to provide finances for their work.

There is a whole communication mechanism that the forces of darkness need to set up in order to obstruct your finances, the more people you market to the more demons and fallen messengers who are tied up hindering your finances and the more the finances will flow ONCE you break hindrance by coming into harmony.

Fundamental to understanding and achieving harmony (sumphoneo) in a family {marriage} setting is to establish the correct order in the home.

It is clearly stated that the man is the head of the woman and that the woman is under the covering of the man and should submit in EVERYTHING just as Yahooshua submitted to those who unjustly arrested him, abused him, tormented him, tortured him and executed  him (1 Peter 2 and 3, Ephesians 5).

The man is told to love his woman as Yahooshua loved the body of believers and gave his life for them.  So the man must lay down his life for his woman and make sacrifices for her and the woman must submit in everything.

This is fundamental, it establishes a critical but little known principle – the man will be judged for all he tells his woman to do, all he teaches, her, etc and she will be judged on whether she submitted in EVERYTHING – which means that if her husband tells her to go into prostitution, she submits, if her husband tells her to worship Satan, she submits BUT in submitting to her husband she prays to Yah to the effect that "Father, you have said I  must submit to my man in everything and therefore I will do this because my man has instructed me to do it.  I ask you to help me and to turn him from his sin so that he is not found wanting on the Day of Judgment.  Until you turn him from his sin or release me from the union I choose to obey your commandment to submit in everything".

An essential element of this component is that this means that the woman must come fully under the teachings of her man no matter what she believes to be truth – she is NOT the judge of his doctrine, she must submit in everything INCLUDING doctrine.

The more the man aligns with Yah the easier it will be for a woman who truly loves Yah to submit to her man.  The more the man deviates from his service of Yah the more difficult it will be for a woman who truly loves Yah to submit to that man.

For this reason it is vital that a woman makes absolutely sure that she is joining herself to the right man BEFORE she consummates her covenant with that man.

As I have noted above, submit in everything includes submission in all matters of doctrine (teaching).

For this reason a believing woman should be sure she is comfortable with her man's doctrine BEFORE they consummate.  

Once they have consummated and she finds there is a problem the commandment STILL says SUBMIT IN EVERYTHING!

In practice it takes a strong woman with willpower to submit to her man in everything or a weak man who will submit to his woman in order to avoid conflict.

Submission is NOT for sissy's.

Submission is an essential element of command and control in the Army, that is why strong men become military commanders, they discipline their will in order to submit to their commanders.  Submission in covenant union {marriage} is the same, a strong woman exerts her will strongly to align with her man no matter how hard it is.

The stronger the one-flesh bond, in other words, the better the sex, in the union the easier it is to be in harmony, the more the prayers will be sumphoneo and the stronger the effect will be.

Conclusion

The core aspects of harmony versus division and hindrance have been outlined.

I pray that for all of you who are in covenant unions {marriages} who have been battling with finances that this will give you the pointers you need to break the hold of lack on your finances.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

In the last few days I have become aware of a major challenge

Yah said a few days ago that there were only 100,000 believers worldwide who were having any impact at all and that the real battle on earth was being fought by 5,000 anointed ones

In my journey of seeking a life partner who is a highly anointed woman of Yah with a close walk with Him I have encountered a number of highly anointed women, one who Yah said was 180th closest to Him, another 123rd, another 72th and another 2nd

All expect Yah to provide a man who will perfectly meet their wants and needs, some are downright fussy, but they are entirely unaware of Isaiah 4:1 which says that in this day there will be seven times as many women as men in the body of true anointed believers

As I have mentioned before, the most superficial inspection will reveal anointed assemblies with up to ten times as many women as men in the body and my own experience is that there are many women who are seeking and finding there are very few suitable men around

At the same time it is important to remember that the man is the head of the woman as the anointed one {Yahooshua} is the head of the body of believers -- by implication this indicates that a woman should NOT join herself to a man who is less anointed than she is or is not as close to Yah as she is, how can she look up to the leadership of a man when she has to look away from Yah to look at him

The harsh reality of the above statistics are that of the 100,000 only 12,500 are men and of the 5,000 only 625 are men scattered over the ENTIRE world

What to do?

Well firstly, if you are a single anointed woman seeking a man and you find an anointed man who is as close to Father as you are or closer, I suggest you make a real effort not to let him go :)

OR settle for a life of celibacy -- which from what I can see may be the best course of action from a practical point of view -- Yah is your husband and devote yourself to serving Him

OR find a woman who has a man and is prepared to share in accordance with Isaiah 4:1, based on my own personal experience such women do not seem to exist such is the pervasive nature of Satan's lies about monogamy

OR settle for a man who is not as strong as her and potentially find herself in an abusive and destructive relationship which potentially causes her to fall away

If we assume that most of the eligible men are already married we find single anointed women potentially competing with hundreds and possibly thousands of others for the few men that are not married

The potential for harm to Yah's beloved daughters is huge!

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and grant you His peace.

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I keep encountering people who talk about "sex before marriage" as though there IS such a thing.

Fact is that before Daddy Yah there is either:

• Sexual intercourse with a virgin, widow or truly divorced woman which equals a lifetime covenant before Yah, which approximates this pagan thing we call marriage but can take place with many women to one man

• The same following some form of ceremony or public taking of vows, etc – which hardly ever happens today, generally the couple have intercourse before the ceremony

• Sexual intercourse with any other woman is adultery and if she has had multiple partners, fornication – the vast majority of legal / church marriages today – guaranteed a part in the lake of fire and brimstone which is the second death – where the vast majority of the population of the world are headed unless they are told the truth and come to repentance (and, by the way, a part in the lake of fire for the pastor or magistrate or other person who performs the ceremony and purports to stand in the place of Yah)

• That is it folks, NO other options

Conclusion

I hope this gives you clarity on the sex before marriage issue.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

I continue to see the dilemma of the Isaiah 4:1 phenomenon all around me so it seems appropriate to write something about it.

Isaiah 4:1 states "AND IN that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread and provide our own apparel; only let us be called by your name to take away our reproach [of being unmarried]." Amplified Bible

What is this saying?

What it says, literally.

In the age being referred to seven women will seek to marry one man!

"but that is against the word" I hear many cry.

Not so.

Yah created women to be virgins and men to be able to take the virginity of more than one woman and virginity can only be taken once so it is clearly apparent that from the beginning Yah created men and women so that more than one woman can covenant with one man and that this is good and perfect in His sight!

See the detailed analysis in the books on marriage on my website.

Satan has lied because there is great spiritual power in a believing man covenanted with {married to} a number of believing women

If you read the rest of Isaiah 4 and also Isaiah 3 you will notice that this prophecy is referring to an age that looks very similar to the present age.

Yah showed me about fifteen years ago that it indeed refers to the age in which we live today.

The current manifestation of Isaiah 4:1 is everywhere for us to see if we have eyes to see.

In anointed gentle assemblies all over the world you will find as many as ten women for every man.

And you will find deeply committed women who are looking everywhere for a similarly committed man and not finding one.

So the obvious thing is for women to share a man – it is entirely "scriptural" after all?

But no, women today are programmed from early childhood to desire a monogamous union or nothing – Snow White, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Barbie and Ken all program young girls for Prince Charming in monogamous perfection or nothing – the psychological programming and judgment associated with a woman's man going with another woman is massively traumatic – society sees it as saying something terrible about the woman who is "jilted".

So single believing women keep searching, many of them desperately, for "Mr Right" and not finding him and getting into condemnation because they believe there is something wrong with themselves not realizing that there are just not enough Mr Right's to go round. 

In the process many end up marrying men who are shaky believers, men who claim to be believers or men who are unbelievers because they get desperate and they let go of the commandment NOT to marry unbelievers and in the process many fall away or find themselves in really unpleasant situations.

In this process many get seduced, get involved, walk away because it fails, etc and end up having sex with more than one man – this is adultery and it carries a penalty of part or all of eternity in the lake of fire and brimstone – no matter what the circumstances.

Most single believing women today are faced with the dilemma of either ending up in hell fire for having sex with multiple partners or of staying celibate.

Is there a solution?

The obvious solution is for several women to share one believing man – but in my experience none of them want to do that and for the most part they are incapable of sharing.

Few men want to try and if they have tried they have been so badly beaten up emotionally they do not want to repeat the experiment.

Some women resort to vibrators and some to pornography and that has its own major negative consequences as discussed some months ago – the vibrator is less of a problem than the pornography but it needs to be prayed over and then there is the question of what they think about when they are using it.

Sexual intimacy between women is NOT forbidden in the book and so two women might achieve their sexual and companionship needs in this way.

It is also possible to pray to Yah to take one's sex drive away, accept that you will be celibate for life and that one will not have a "male life partner" and live life alone or with other woman friends in a non-sexual way.

All of these have their challenges – the simple answer to the question – "is there a solution" is that I do not currently have one other than what is outlined above all of which are unpalatable to most single women.

Conclusion

This is a hugely challenging situation.

It is potentially sending millions of believing women to hell.

If you are in this situation you need to really be careful about what you do.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

The attached document summarizes the results of this analysis

In the last few months of 2001 Daddy Yah took me through a comprehensive strategic (critical issues) analysis of the way He intended marriage to be.

This is a direct reprint of an article written in 2001 without editing

My understanding on certain issues has matured considerably, however the basic principles remain valid

Yah says “it is a VERY important document” (10 January 2014)

The document has been converted from another technology and there are therefore some issues with formatting and typographically

HEADLINES OF MARRIAGE STRATEGIC PLAN

The following pages are extracts from the prophetic strategic analysis of marriage given by Yah during the last few months of 2001.

The detailed plan is available on request.

WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR MARRIAGE IN THE FAITH

No Factor

1. YAH FIRST (HEART, MIND, SOUL AND STRENGTH): man and woman are believers, accept Yahweh as supreme and final authority, by His Word and by His Spirit

2. YAH LEADS (EVERY MICRO SECOND IN EVERYTHING): Seek a clear sign. Yahweh ALONE decides if the man and woman are to marry and when. It is His decision. He knows all there is to know about the parties and He is NOT surprised by their sins, their errors, their past, etc. Let Him guide approach, discussion, etc.

3. SEX IS SPIRITUAL AND SACRED: Sex is the essence of marriage and the symbol of the marriage covenant. The marriage bed is undefiled and everything that husband and wives can do sexually WITHIN the marriage is of Yahweh and blessed by Him. Frank recognition of the importance of sex BEFORE marriage. Seven full days for consummation with undisturbed, uninhibited, giving, sexual love making concurrent with initial sanctification. Ongoing passionate, uninhibited, giving, love making throughout the marriage.

4. MAN IS HEAD (LEADS AND GIVES DIRECTION FROM YAHWEH): Husband must seek guidance from Yah, conform to pattern given by Yahshua, unconditional chesed {love} of wives, lay down his life, accountable and responsible for ALL sin of his house by wives in submission, responsible for doctrine, leadership, direction, prophet, priest and king.

5. WIVES IN PERFECT HARMONY WITH HUSBAND: Submit to husband in everything, actively desire, reverence and chesed {love} unconditionally, adapt to and conform to husband, not responsible for husband's sin, will be judged in terms of submission, reverence, desire, chesed for husband, especially giving love making. Build the house, promote husband spiritually through intercession, etc. Proverbs 31 wife - strong in support of her husband in all his endeavors. Unify the house, work together as team in a partnership led by Yahweh through husband. Sing same song as husband from same song book, to same tune, by same orchestra, in same key - perfect harmony!

6. HOLINESS AND SANCTIFICATION (SET APARTNESS): Systematic and comprehensive sanctification and spiritual cleansing of all 'baggage' i.e. one flesh bonds, soul ties, wrong promises, soul force, inner vows, wrong teaching, hardening of heart, deliverance from demons, etc. Commence at start of consummation, continue in parallel with seven day consummation, completion on eighth day. Thereafter continuing sanctification, cleansing, healing, etc as necessary to eliminate all past spiritual, emotional, psychological and other hurts, contamination, etc. Complete spiritual healing.

7. OTHER ASPECTS OF LIFE (WORK, FAMILY, FINANCES, RELATIONSHIP, ETC): Get to know one another, develop relationship, agree on doctrine, social background, hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes, assumptions, expectations, what people think, legal requirements, past, quirks, bad habits, finances, house, cars, possessions, acceptance, etc, etc

 
CRITICAL OPERATIONAL FACTORS:

THE HUMAN FOUNDATION - PERSONAL ATTRIBUTES WHICH SHAPE THE HUMAN ENVIRONMENT FOR MARRIAGE AND LIFE

Marriage and life are founded on the human beings who participate in them.

The whole of creation is ultimately focused on the role of human beings as we walk out the test that we have been given to see who will serve Yahweh faithfully, overcome and sit with Yahshua on a high throne for eternity and who will serve elsewhere in heaven versus who will burn in the Lake of Fire and Brimstone for eternity.

Human beings are complex spiritual creations in complex physical bodies with soul and emotions, mind and will, physical attributes, sexuality which is an enormously complex synthesis of everything else, soft knowledge and hard knowledge.

While we live and work primarily in the environment shaped by our hard and to a lesser extent soft knowledge, we and the lives we lead, are in fact shaped by our spirits and who we become during our lives as a consequence of life events, demonic oppression, generational curses, etc, etc

Man comprises spirit (heart), soul, mind and body - Mark 12:30; Luke 10:27; Matthew 22:37.

Second Dimension Factor

A. SPIRIT: All spiritual attributes of the person as a spirit being (faith, chesed {love}, hope, patience, wisdom, etc); plus spiritual Revelation of the Word of Yahweh and of Yahweh Himself; plus all spirit's that operate on human beings - the Set Apart Holy Spirit of Yahweh, the seven Spirits of Yahweh (including wisdom, patience, hope, faith, chesed {charity / love}, etc); the spirits of other human beings - one flesh bond between husband and wives and with adulterous partners, witchcraft, desire, lust, etc; plus messengers from Yahweh and Satan (angels and fallen angels); plus demons (lust, perversion, fear, pride, rejection, heaviness, murder, suicide, death, intellectualism, etc, etc); plus generational and family curses and third party curses and own curses, etc.

We are first and foremost SPIRIT BEINGS and the essence of what manifests in the visible, tangible realm is from spirit origins even though we focus so much on the other attributes.

B. SOUL: All soulish attributes of the person, personality, psychology, emotions, soul
force objects (life shocks, inner vows, soul force prayers, death wishes, etc)

C. MIND: Intellect, IQ, cognitive reasoning, analytical ability; plus sub-conscious
programming, learned responses, imagination, creativity, passive mind, etc
 
D. BODY: Physical human being - spirit, soul and mind manifest through the physical
body in many respects. Physical attributes, height, colour of hair, weight, strength, beauty, etc

E. SEXUALITY: In essence a synthesis of factors A to D and not necessarily a separate factor. However, in the context of marriage and in the context of defining how people relate to one another and how they conduct themselves in many ways, Yahweh insists that sexuality is a SPECIFIC personal attribute which defines the person. Yahweh says that this is the specific attribute of being a human being that Satan has most savagely and most effectively perverted through the ages because it more than ANY other attribute has been given to enable us to understand Yahweh!

F. SOFT KNOWLEDGE: Head knowledge of relatively intangible things, relates to culture, religion, upbringing, superstitions, traditions, history, language, religious instruction (mind knowledge of Scripture as opposed to spiritual revelation knowledge in the spirit of the person), etc. Much soft knowledge is in fact subjective and in many cases is actually only valid when viewed from a certain perspective, much of it is actually error and deception in the areas of religion, history, archaeology, etc or demonically based in the case of religion, tradition, etc

G. TECHNICAL KNOWLEDGE: Head knowledge of relatively HARD things. Things that are readily verifiable including many aspects of physics, chemistry, engineering, geology, astronomy, etc - note that there is NOT a clear distinction between this factor and the previous factor, a lot of what is taught as fact in biology (evolution), archaeology, etc which appears to be hard fact is actually soft and subject to change.

1. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR PUTTING YAH FIRST IN LIFE

1.1 DECISION AND RELATIONSHIP: Accept Yah as Mighty One & Adonai through Yahshua's Covenant Sacrifice, choose to serve and chesed Him with heart, mind, soul & strength; constantly affirm decision & reinforce; recognize our own weaknesses & ask for His guidance in our lives, seek His Face, spend time with Him, grow in faith, etc

1.2 WORSHIP AND COVENANT: Praise and worship and regular celebration of the covenant and claiming of the covenant promises by faith

1.3 INTERCESSION: Intercession, prayer in the Holy Spirit (tongues), prayer against principalities, powers, etc, prayer for the Body of believers and for own needs.

1.4 GAIN KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING: Daily Bible reading, read teachings, listen to teaching tapes, watch videos, attend meetings for teaching, gaining revelation

1.5 SET APART AND ANOINTED: Consecration, sanctification, setting oneself apart, adjustments in life style, etc. Seek death to self (Galatians 2:20) and seek to be totally anointed and filled with the Holy (Set Apart) Spirit of Yahweh. Walk in the authority of the anointed believer.

1.6 BUILD A STRONG MARRIAGE: Virtually ALL women should be married and virtually no men should be single or monogamous - marriage is the fundamental basis of life on earth that Yahweh has appointed for people to serve Him. As many wives as Yahweh appoints.

1.7 HIGH CALLING: Seek to do the works that Yahshua did and greater works, seek the high calling and follow it whether in commerce, industry or ministry.


2. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR BEING LED BY YAH

2.1 PRAYER IN FAITH WITHOUT DOUBTING: Ask constantly each step of the way for directional guidance and confirmation. Ask and you will receive, knock and it will be opened unto you.

2.2 MOVE FORWARD: Trusting Yahweh for guidance, it is very difficult for Him to guide us when we are standing still refusing to move until He gives direction

2.3 ASK FOR POSITIVE, ACTION ORIENTED DIRECTION: Trust Him to guide through small directional adjustments far more than large make or break actions.

2.4 SIGNS (FLEECES): Where necessary ask for explicit supernatural signs
 
2.5 LISTEN: Hearing His voice is only one component of being led by the Spirit of Yahweh. Sanctification to cleanse ears of the spirit is vital.

2.6 READ THE SIGNS CORRECTLY: Be sensitive & discerning. Read signs, monitor every little event for His gentle guiding hand and flow with Him. His yoke is easy - go with the flow. Do NOT force closure or opening of doors but do not force through when He is opening or closing. Do not make assumptions, do NOT jump to conclusions.

2.7 WALK IN FAITH: As long as you are praying constantly for guidance, are being sensitive and discerning with regard to doors opening and closing, etc believe that He has heard and is directing. Avoid presumption.


3. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR SEX AT CONSUMMATION AND THROUGHOUT MARRIAGE

3.1 SPIRITUALLY PREPARED: Intercession in days before, prayer together to commit the marriage to Yahweh, specific COVENANT CEREMONY, accept that sexual lovemaking is spiritual, build house, build one flesh bond, build chesed {love}, soul ties, etc

3.2 KNOWLEDGE: Husband detailed theoretical knowledge of sexual techniques, positions, etc (or practical if already married), wife at least a basic knowledge and acceptance of sexual techniques, positions, etc no prohibitions unless serious past life shock factors

3.3 FACILITIES: Quiet venue, nice room, nice bed, en-suite bathroom, no distractions, lubricants, massage oils, etc

3.4 ALL DAY TO DAY CARES TAKEN CARE OF: Children, work, pets, housework, plants, etc so no interruptions, concerns, etc (especially a woman with children)

3.5 WIFE DESIRES AND PREPARED: Wife filled with desire, open sexually, ready for husband, gives totally no holding back, prepares herself, does small things to please her husband, dress, make up, hair, etc, actively responds

3.6 HUSBAND LEADS: Considerate but takes the lead and guides wife, no rush, spend time talking, caressing, etc

3.7 CLEAR FOCUS ON DESIRED OUTCOME: Systematic and deliberate cooperative effort to reach full sexual potential and as many orgasms as possible, seek but do not demand simultaneous climax


4. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR MAN AS HEAD OF HOUSE

4.1 COVERING: Covers wives and children against all sin committed in submission to him, takes demons from wives at consummation of marriage
 
4.2 PROPHET: Guided by Yahweh and provides guidance to his wives and family in terms of direction, correction, etc given by Yahweh

4.3 PRIEST: Directs ministry to Yahweh and ministers to family on behalf of Yahweh in areas of sanctification, ministry of sacraments, leading in prayer, initiating praise and worship, etc

4.4 KING (JUDGE): Defines the rules of conduct of the family, based on Torah, as led by Yahweh, resolves disputes between wives, between children, disciplines children, corrects wives, ensures Yahweh's standards of righteousness and justice are adhered to in the family

4.5 LEADER: Sets direction of family in all things, goes in front, "path finder"

4.6 TEACHER: Teaches wives "at home" in areas of doctrine, the faith, etc and teaches children in areas where wives can't teach - overall high level doctrine, etc

4.7 PROVIDER: Through relationship with Yahweh procures sources of income of whatever type through ministry, commercial enterprise, etc - wives empowered to trade on his behalf under his overall direction and guidance, may execute, administer, supervise much of the work


5. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR WIVES IN PERFECT HARMONY

It is extremely important to recognize that ALL these factors MIRROR how the husband should relate to Yah!

5.1 REVERENCE IN EVERYTHING: notices, regards, honours, prefers, venerates, esteems, praises and admires her husband exceedingly - in an earthly sense worship her husband (Ephesians 5:33 AMP; 1 Peter 3:2 AMP)

5.2 CHESED UNCONDITIONALLY: endure long, patient and kind, never envious nor boils over with jealousy, not boastful or vainglorious, not display haughtily, not conceited, nor arrogant nor inflated with pride, not rude nor unmannerly, does not act unbecomingly, does not insist on own rights, nor own way, not self seeking, nor touchy nor fretful, nor resentful, no account of evil done, pays no attention to suffered wrong, not rejoice at injustice, nor unrighteousness, rejoices when right and truth prevail, bears up under anything and everything that comes, ever ready to believe the best of every person, hopes are fadeless under all circumstances and endures everything without weakening, chesed never fails, nor becomes obsolete nor comes to an end (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 AMP)

5.3 SUBMIT IN EVERYTHING: as Yahshua submitted to them that unjustly condemned him to torture and death even though there was no sin nor deceit nor guile found in him, who being reviled reviled not in return, who when he was abused and suffered made not threats of vengeance but trusted Yahweh in everything, that even if her husband does not obey the Word of Yahweh he may be won over without a word by the conduct of his wives (1 Peter 2:13- 3:2 AMP)

5.4 DESIRE: sexually crave her husband (Genesis 3:16 AMP) and constantly focus on him sexually, seek to be constantly united with him and become totally one with him. Seek to express her reverence, chesed and submission in skilled and giving love making with no holding back.

5.5 KNOW HUSBAND'S WILL AND DO IT WITHOUT INSTRUCTION: See herself as fully empowered agent of her husband with his authority to perform all activities in his name and on his behalf in accordance with his will as communicated to her. Only seek guidance from him when she is unsure, else "get on with the job" but ask for guidance at any time she is unsure and, if she misses it, take note and make the necessary adjustments to "get it right" in future

5.6 INSTANT, UNQUESTIONING OBEDIENCE: the full manifestation of reverence, unconditional chesed and submission should bring about a condition in which she does everything asked of her immediately it is asked without argument. Seek clarification where necessary. Obedience delayed or partial obedience is NOT obedience it is disobedience and rebellion. This requires a strong one flesh bond which is the product of intense desire.

5.7 HARMONY IN THE SMALLEST THINGS: true symphonic harmony requires that the wife is perfectly in tune with her husband in EVERYTHING, she should flow with his least significant indication of preference, whether in terms of food, clothing, hair style or any other aspect, he should not have to ask, she should discern his will in all things and derive her greatest pleasure from pleasing him in all things as an act of willing love, an expression of her reverence and desire for him, she will then sing exactly the same song from the same song book with the same music, the same instruments and in exactly the same key, at this point ALL their prayers will be instantly answered (1 Peter 3:7; Matthew 18:19 AMP; Matthew 12:25) This requires a very strong one flesh bond which is the product of intense desire.


6. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR HOLINESS AND SANCTIFICATION (SET APARTNESS) AT CONSUMMATION

6.1 BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE FAITH: The Blood of Yahshua, prayer, faith, authority of believers in the Name of Yahshua, etc

6.2 KNOWLEDGE, TRUTH, REVELATION: Recognize wrong beliefs, repentance, forgiveness, etc - includes wife accept headship of husband

6.3 SANCTIFICATION PROCEDURES: Deliverance, immersion, anointing, sackcloth and ashes, bread and wine, husband taking demons, etc

6.4 HISTORICAL -- PREVIOUS GENERATIONS: Bloodline curses, demons, vows, etc
 
6.5 HISTORICAL -- THIS LIFE, SEXUALLY RELATED: One flesh bonds, soul ties, associated demons, etc

6.6 HISTORICAL -- THIS LIFE, SOULISH: Soul hurts, death wishes, inner vows, life shocks, wrong words, curses, wrong vows, passive mind, will, etc

6.7 HISTORICAL -- THIS LIFE, DEMONIC: Demons, demonic objects, roots of rejection, etc


7. WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR OTHER ASPECTS OF LIFE

7.1 SERVICE TO YAHWEH (RELIGIOUS INVOLVEMENT): Religious / denominational affiliations and beliefs, doctrine, church affiliation, ministry involvement, etc. This is distinct from the spiritual, relationship with Yahweh issues addressed in the other 6 CSF's. This relates to activities, "church" attendance, ministry, etc - what the parties do in the service of Yahweh OVER AND ABOVE their relationship with Him. It is important to understand that service to Yahweh is DISTINCT from our relationship with Him and His guidance of us. This factor is ALSO DISTINCT from full time ministry as primary occupation which is included in factor 7.3

7.2 FAMILY: existing family members, children, parents, expectations in terms of children, number of wives, etc. This relates to all aspects of family life OVER AND ABOVE the aspects of husband - wife relationship, etc dealt with in the other six CSF's. This is the way of life in the family, the raising of children, home, public or private schooling, etc

7.3 OCCUPATION = CALLING (BUSINESS / COMMERCIAL / MINISTRY / EMPLOYMENT): qualifications, profession, type of work, self employed or nature of employment, job security, job status, etc. This relates to who the husband works for (bear in mind that Yahweh has indicated that the wife should always work with and for the husband if she is not permanently at home running the home, raising children, etc). Includes academic and professional qualifications, etc. Includes people who are in FULL TIME ministry in service of Yahweh - again distinct from their relationship to Yahweh and their service to Yahweh under other factors and sub-factors. The occupation is IN FACT THE CALLING of the man and his house.

7.4 COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT: community affairs, elder in the gate, politics, local, provincial / state, national government involvement. Yahweh's intention is for mature adults to participate in the affairs of the community, this factor relates to this involvement, nature of involvement, commitments, etc

7.5 SOCIAL / CULTURAL: social and cultural background and involvement, sports, sports clubs, hobbies, theatre, etc. This relates to all forms of extra-mural social, cultural, athletic, etc activity.

7.6 FINANCES AND ASSETS: financial standing, type of car, type of house, possessions, (or lack thereof), etc. The hard issues that are generally regarded as critical in making a selection of marriage partners.
 
7.7 RELATIONSHIP AND RELATED: Get to know one another, develop relationship, interests, likes and dislikes, assumptions, expectations, what people think, legal requirements, past, quirks, bad habits, acceptance, etc. The soft issues that are generally regarded as critical in a selection of marriage partner - the reason for recommendations of extended "courtship", "dating", lengthy "engagements", date a number of people to decide who is best suited, etc


THE CRITICAL STAGES IN LIFE

These factors theoretically run across both the marriage stages in terms of priorities with regard to making a marriage decision and during the phases of marriage and with regard to life stages - they are, in practical terms, INDEPENDENT OF THE MARRIAGE STAGES since Yahweh has allocated ZERO weight to CSF 7. in most stages of marriages and they are therefore EFFECTIVELY ONLY dependent on the Life Stages. Note that Yahweh has categorically stated that these factors are IRRELEVANT in making a marriage decision in a marriage where He is first and He leads the parties into marriage.

L1. INFANT: up to and including age 5
Development is primarily spiritual and soulish. Satan endeavours to ensure AT LEAST one massive traumatic event before child turns six in order to provide a key for destructive attack for the rest of the persons life through inner vows, soul force objects, deep seated demonic attachment, etc

L2. CHILD: age 6 to puberty.
More intellectual development. Less tendency for Satan to attack.

L3. IMMATURE YOUTH: puberty to fifteen
At puberty, specifically age twelve and a half, child becomes an adult in sight of Yahweh and becomes spiritually accountable for their actions from then on. Girls created to marry at this age, boys relatively immature continue to develop physically toward full adult capacity. Satan tends to attack severely during and after puberty, particularly in terms of sexuality of women, currently about one third of women lose their virginity between puberty and age 14, one third age 15 to 17 and balance may keep virginity till marriage but be highly sexually inhibited as a consequence.

L4. MATURE YOUTH: sixteen to nineteen
By age 16 personality is largely formed, girls who have not married have become so strong willed and deceived by modern false doctrines that they are incapable of marrying successfully from about age 16 to about age 24

Young men who are VERY spiritually mature, such as David, MAY be ready to marry at this age, most will be becoming sexually aware but are NOT mature enough to provide viable spiritual coverage and headship for a woman. Learning effective masturbation techniques will be a requirement for most men and women who are not married, particularly in the later years of this stage (men), earlier for women.

Fornication becomes established in a very large number of people this age and frigidity and related sexual perversions in the opposite direction become entrenched in many others.

Wrong doctrines of the church and society come into massive conflict with the internal programming of people this age and rebellion is widespread and frequently becomes entrenched for life.

L5. YOUNG ADULT: twenty to twenty nine
Scripturally the male should be in training to take over the fathers business and the woman should have established herself as a wife and be learning to take over all aspects of running the family home from her mother-in-law

L6. FUNCTIONAL ADULT: thirty to forty nine
Fully functional as adults. Man running the family enterprise, ministry, etc. Woman running the family home with mother-in-law assisting with education and raising of children.

L7. ELDER: fifty upward
Family enterprise handed over to the eldest son and running of family home handed over to wives of eldest son.

Father is an elder in the gate involved in civic affairs, government, judging, etc. Mother is involved in community affairs and also in the home, etc


WHAT ARE THE CRITICAL SUCCESS FACTORS FOR CORPORATE COVENANT LEADERSHIP

1. YAH FIRST (HEART, MIND, SOUL AND STRENGTH): all are believers, accept Yahweh as supreme and final authority, by His Word and by His Spirit

2. YAH LEADS (EVERY MICRO SECOND IN EVERYTHING): Seek a clear sign. Yahweh ALONE decides if the organization should exist, what it's purpose is and who is to lead and who to staff it. It is His decision. He knows all there is to know about the parties and He is NOT surprised by their sins, their errors, their past, etc. Let Him guide approach, discussion, etc.

3. COVENANT IS SPIRITUAL AND SACRED: Covenant is the essence of ANY relationship. Full recognition of the terms of covenant, leader covers ALL sins of followers in submission to him, accepts overall spiritual responsibility for direction and provision, all recognize that covenant always carries a blessing AND a curse and covenant is not entered into lightly. Blessing AND curse must be clearly stipulated up front. Blessing includes terms of employment, remuneration, perks, etc. Curse includes dismissal, action to recover damages, spiritual curses invoked for betrayal, etc. Must be explicitly defined BEFORE entering into covenant, CANNOT be revoked or changed except by mutual consent of BOTH / ALL parties.

Covenant consummated before Yahweh by partaking of the bread and wine representing the body and blood of Yahshua, the basis of the ETERNAL covenant for believers. May be associated with immersion in water and immersion in the Holy Spirit. The terms of the covenant must be regularly rehearsed in association with breaking of bread and taking of wine.

A house divided CANNOT stand and no man can serve two masters. Followers must follow the leader IN EVERYTHING, the leader IS Yahweh's representative in terms of direction, etc and followers must accept his accountability before Yahweh on the Day of Judgment in this context.

In a truly Yahweh focused covenant based Corporate entity there should always be growth, prosperity, provision, continuity and other blessings. Any person joining such a corporation should understand that provided all parties bring their part and show undivided loyalty and intercede continuously for the guidance of the leader by Yahweh and for all unrighteousness in the organization to be dealt with by Yahweh, employment should be a life time certainty. Future generations should be assured career opportunities in the footsteps of their fathers and wives and even son's-in-law should have employment opportunities, PROVIDED they put Yahweh first in their lives.

Ideally, particularly with larger corporate entities the corporation should provide residential accommodation, schooling, etc in the immediate vicinity of the work place financed in such a way that neither the corporation nor the staff incur debt. The old Mine / Military model is a frame of reference but modified to the righteous standards of Yahweh with supernatural provision by Yahweh.

For this to work in practice, all participants will have to depart dramatically from worldly thinking and seek holiness and sanctification (set apartness) unto Yahweh with an associated work ethic balanced with commitment to putting Yahweh first at all times, being led by Yahweh and seeing the family unit as the most critical covenant building block of society while seeing the corporation as a form of extended family as a sub-set of the body of anointed ones.

There are great challenges with commensurate blessings for those who will seek to put Yahweh first in all things.

4. ONE MAN IS HEAD (LEADS AND GIVES DIRECTION FROM YAHWEH AND IS ACCOUNTABLE TO YAHWEH): Only one man can lead and must seek guidance from Yahweh, conform to pattern given by Yahshua, Moses, David, Daniel and others. Unconditional chesed {love} for followers, lay down his life, accountable and responsible for ALL sin of his house by followers in submission, responsible for leadership, doctrine, overall provision, direction, prophet, priest and king (judge). May delegate as Yahweh leads BUT has final accountability.

5. FOLLOWERS IN PERFECT HARMONY WITH LEADER: Submit to leader in everything, actively support, reverence and chesed {love} unconditionally, adapt to and conform to leader, not responsible for leaders sin, will be judged in terms of submission, reverence, support, chesed for leader, especially 100% support and commitment, no matter what. Build the house, promote leader spiritually through intercession, etc. Refer followers of David and Yahshua as best Scriptural examples. Unify the house, work together as team in a partnership led by Yahweh through leader. Sing same song as leader from same song book, to same tune, by same orchestra, in same key - perfect harmony!

6. HOLINESS AND SANCTIFICATION (SET APARTNESS): Systematic and comprehensive sanctification and spiritual cleansing of all 'baggage' i.e. one flesh bonds, soul ties, wrong promises, soul force, inner vows, wrong teaching, hardening of heart, deliverance from demons, etc. Commence on day enter into covenant. Eight day initial induction and sanctification process. Thereafter continuing sanctification, cleansing, healing, etc as necessary to eliminate all past spiritual, emotional, psychological and other hurts, contamination, etc. Complete spiritual healing. Includes basic organizational principles, doctrines, etc.

Further six days of induction in terms of organizational culture, principles, doctrines, etc. Fourteen days total initial sanctification, induction and orientation. Ongoing sanctification throughout life.

7. OTHER (JOB DESCRIPTION, WORK AT HAND, FUNCTIONS, FINANCES, RELATIONSHIP, ETC): Technical and soft knowledge, functional job descriptions, get to know one another, develop relationship, social background, hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes, assumptions, expectations, what people think, past, quirks, bad habits, finances, house, cars, possessions, acceptance, etc, etc

In 2001 Yah took me through an exercise to understand the critical success factors for life and sexual life covenant {marriage}.

This resulted in about 100 pages of critical issues strategic analysis which is summarized here in terms of the Critical Success Factors for a sexual life covenant between a man and woman. This is reviewed in more detail in the attachment.  The detailed analysis will be emailed as a compressed file of Adobe pdf documents separately.

The associated weights documented at that time are at the end of each heading -- relative importance ratings are for the man and also for the woman when the union is mature, relative importance for wife in the adjustment and building stage of marriage are in brackets.

These are the things you need to do in order to have a successful life covenant between a man and a woman {marriage}:

The Almighty [Yah] must be first in the family.

This should be 80% of the focus of the life of the family through the man – this does NOT relate to hours spent, it relates to whether the man is conducting life with his primary focus being serving our Daddy in Heaven or whether he is serving the cares of this world.

And whether the woman is aligned with her man and accordingly also serving the Almighty.

The rating for the woman during the early stages of the union is more on serving her man and becoming strongly one with him and building a sure house.

Once the union is established the woman should also have a high level of focus on Yah (the Almighty) but always serves Yah with and through her man.  This is necessary for him to love her as Yahoohua loves the body of believers and for her to submit to him in everything.

In all things seek the leading of the Almighty, through prayer, asking for guidance, seeking signs, etc.

As previously mentioned, sexual love making is the most set apart {sacred} think in this thing we call marriage and therefore the most important.

It is a celebration of the covenant act between the man and the woman and should be entered into regularly.

The woman is responsible for initiating love making, NOT the man.

A strong one-flesh bond is prerequisite for a successful and sustainable union and a prosperous house.

Yah gave us the union between man and woman in order for us to understand the union we are intended to have with Him through His Spirit in us.

The man must lead and give direction, provide the covering, teach, etc.

He must love his woman as Yahooshua loved the body of believers and gave his life for them, so the man must be willing to give his life for his woman both spiritually and physically.

As discussed in the article "Buddy can you spare a dime", the woman is required to seek harmony or symphony with her man and submit in everything, as Yahooshua submitted to those who unjustly beat him and executed him.

This is NOT Yah being unreasonable, it is about us learning to relate - in ways that have largely been lost and forgotten.

Holiness or set-apartness, drawing close to Yah, cutting off ties with sin, the ways of the world, etc.

Originally I was told that this item has zero percentage but I have found that in practice, owing to the extremely corrupt state of human beings today it is necessary to allocate 0.5% in order to ensure that appropriate attention is given to certain key aspects of running an effective home, ministry, business, etc.

If man and woman both truly place the Almighty first and serve each other the way Yah intended the remaining factors will follow.

Conclusion

Living life this way is a huge challenge for all of us.

I am firmly convinced that those who manage to conduct their live covenant's {marriages} in accordance with these criteria WILL find themselves blessed on the Day of Judgment.

If you turn these on their head and concentrate on the material things at the end of the list you WILL find that you have missed the mark seriously with Yah.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

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A fundamental part of our society, lives and religion is something that is widely referred to as "marriage".

This is the term used in just about all bibles, but there is a problem, the thing that we practice in society that we call "marriage" is, most of the time, NOT what Yah provides for and what is referred to in the bible.

In previous articles I have referred to the covenant nature of this union and the fact that sexual intercourse with a virgin, widow or truly divorced woman IS a covenant act that ushers in a covenant whether we want it or not.

The word marriage, as with so many of the other words that are challenged in my articles is a word that has worldly connotations that are far removed from what Yah intended and therefore to be avoided wherever possible.

If we look for a technical term to replace "marriage" and its associated word forms such as "marry" i suggest that "sexual life covenant between a man and a woman" is a fairly accurate term.

If a woman has a sexual life covenant with a man who is still alive then "divorce" and "remarriage" are only permissible in certain very specific cases of treachery and betrayal including the one party losing all hope of salvation.

Since sexual intercourse with a woman who is eligible for covenant, that is a true virgin, true widow or true divorced woman, IS the covenant act a legal marriage is only valid in these cases where covenant is valid, otherwise "marriage" is legalizing adultery and has no validity in the Court of Heaven.  Most legal marriages today fall into this category.

There is NO SUCH THING as "sex before marriage", there is either a covenant sexual act, that is consummation or on-going sexual love making within a covenant relationship or otherwise it is an adulterous act.

You may be offended by including "sexual" in the definition BUT as pointed out previously sexual love making is the ONLY thing that Yah limits to this form of relationship and no other and the ONLY thing that constitutes sin if practiced outside of this form of covenant relationship.

Accordingly, rather than being offended and in the process agreeing with Satan's lies I suggest for your consideration that it is appropriate to be direct and blunt about what we are talking about.

If you are considering marriage and do not regard sexual love making as THE MOST IMPORTANT THING in that relationship then you should consider a life of celibacy and singleness.  It is an insult to Yah to suggest that this most beautiful and deeply spiritual act is dirty or not to be spoken of with appropriate reverence.

If you are in a marriage and are withholding sexual love making or using it as a weapon or bargaining counter or whatever you are sinning grievously.  You are BOTH required to actively and creatively preserve the act of covenant as a joyful and pleasing act to be celebrated regularly.

Having laid that foundation I would like now to focus on the reasons for entering into a covenant of this nature.  These are set out below:

Woman was created to be a helper "meet", that is suitable, fit for, conformed to, aligned with the man spiritually, religiously, in family, raise children, manage household, social, business, government, everything. 

Man and woman were created for the man to cleave, that is, to cut into the cleft of the woman thereby establishing a salt covenant and in the case of a virgin or suitable prayer with the bread and wine a blood covenant, and in the process establish a one flesh bond.  A soul tie is also formed.

The fundamental design of human beings is such that the blood covenant comes into existence between a man and a virgin and cannot be broken except by an act of Grace by Yah under exceptional circumstances.

This one-flesh sexual covenant between a man and a woman is intended to be the highest spiritual entity on earth second only to the oneness with Yah that comes from believing and being filled with His Spirit.

This sexual covenant is intended for intense sexual passion, pleasure, love making (the creation of love) in a totally giving uninhibited relationship in which both partners seek to develop the art of sexual love making to its highest potential.

The man is the ultimate covering in earthly spiritual terms to his woman, her head and her earthly provider insofar as it is Yah's intention that the two engage in commerce, ministry, etc with the woman as the helper to the man.

The concept of man as covering, lightning conductor, umbrella is such that the man is responsible for the overall direction of the house and any time he takes a wrong turning he will take the punishment and she will be unharmed provided she remains in submission and under his covering.

Submission means she journeys WITH him down the wrong road praying for Yah's will to be done.  If she fights with him he is likely to make bigger mistakes. 

"Whatsoever two of you agree (harmonize / symphony) on earth it will be done by your Father in heaven".

A man and woman in perfect harmony with a strong one flesh bond are a powerful force on earth and can build a sure house and prosper.

Refer to the article "Buddy can you spare a dime" for a detailed discussion of this. 

The woman is a fellow soldier in the army of Yah with her man.

She submits to her man as his second in command.

The armour of Yah does not cover their backs so spiritually they fight back to back whether in intercession, spiritual warfare, looking out for one another in their day to day lives, etc.

For this reason there WILL be many differences of focus and understanding between them.  Where many might see these differences as weaknesses they are in fact strengths and, in fact, for the union to be really effective as a spiritual warfare entity on earth it is necessary that the parties ARE VERY DIFFERENT in many respects.

The woman should lift up her man to Yah, as she presses closer to Yah through her man they will BOTH be drawn closer to Yah, she should intercede for him, build him up, lift him up, walk together, fight the battles of the kingdom together, no matter how hard.

As fellow soldier the woman submits to her man as an act of an iron military will that CHOOSES to submit.

This needs a strong woman.

A fundamental part of this covenant union, to raise up off-spring but NOT the only critical element as some would have it.  Sex is for pleasure and building a strong one-flesh bond AS WELL AS for conceiving children.

Children continue the lineage of the man, provide support for parents in old age, give great pleasure, build on the strengths of the couple to make a difference in the world, etc.

Do NOT join yourself to an unsuitable partner and then wonder why your children turn out badly.

They should be lovers, tender towards each other, caring; they should avoid argument, in this role she submits as an act of tenderness and adoration.

Man discuss things with your woman, consult with your woman, use her as a sounding board to bounce ideas off, share innermost secrets, do things together, share life, play, travel, etc.

Footnote: It is technically possible for a man to enter into a sexual life covenant with more than one virgin, widow or truly divorced woman.  This form of union, although provided for by Yah, is extremely difficult to put into practice in current society. Do NOT attempt it unless you are absolutely certain Yah is leading you in that direction and you have the full WILLING consent of your existing woman / women AND the new woman.

Conclusion

How serious are YOU about serving Yah and overcoming to the end?

If you are a man and single, unless you have had robust confirmation that Yah does NOT want you joined to a woman or women then you should be seeking Yah to find the right woman.  There are many committed and dedicated woman who desperately want a man.

If you are a woman then Isaiah 4:1 highlights a massive problem, there are approximately between 7 and 10 more women truly committed to Yah than there are men so celibacy may well be the only option for you.

If your union does not contain ALL the above elements then I strongly urge you to course correct and make sure they are ALL present.

May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.