2011.12.03
A contentious woman is as rottenness in the bones
by
James Robertson
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There is another dimension to the subject of submission of women {wives} to their men {husbands} – the negative spiritual consequences of a woman who is not in submission on her man.
There are a number of verses to consider in this context:
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous and worthy woman {wife} [earnest and strong in character] is a crowning joy to her man {husband}, but she who makes him ashamed is as rottenness in his bones." Amplified adjusted
Proverbs 21:9 "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and fault-finding woman." Amplified
Proverbs 25:24 "It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a disagreeing, quarrelsome, and scolding woman." Amplified
The bottom line is that a woman who does not submit, one who contradicts, who does not accept the Yah-given authority of her man, who accuses him, who argues with him, etc produces a spiritual sensation in him that is likened to rottenness in the bones. It weakens him, debilitates him, drains the anointing out of him and, once it has happened a couple of times most men give up fighting and standing for their rights and cave in and submit to the woman and give her what she is demanding, at least some of the time.
Alternatively the discomfort is so great that he loses his temper, becomes abusive and may even become physically violent.
And so, a safeguard that Yah provided to encourage a man to treat his woman or women correctly back-fires and produces the modern phenomenon of the submissive Christian man.
It is important for a man to keep his temper and, if he makes a real effort to control his behaviour and to conduct himself correctly Yah will eventually permit him to put the woman away {divorce her}.
Note that this is for the protection of the man more often than it is for the woman IF the man is truly seeking to serve Yah and is a gentle man.
Contrast the above with:
Proverbs 31:10-27
"10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
"11 The heart of her man {husband} doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
"12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
"13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
"14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
"15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
"16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
"17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
"18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
"19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
"20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
"21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
"22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
"23 Her man {husband} is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
"24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
"25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
"26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
"27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." KJV
Notice that the man does NOT support the woman, she is an equal partner in the commercial endeavours of the family.
The basis of the above includes:
Genesis 2:23-24 "23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto [cut into the cleft of] his woman {wife}: and they shall be one flesh." KJV adjusted
and 1 Corinthians 11:7-9
"… but woman is [the expression of] man's glory (majesty, pre-eminence).
"8 For man was not [created] from woman, but woman from man;
"9 Neither was man created on account of or for the benefit of woman, but woman on account of and for the benefit of man." " Amplified
It is so that most Christian teaching totally ignores the piece about woman being created for man. A woman is to be a helper meet, suitable for, conformed to her man.
I am not talking here about ugly repressive dominance by the man, nor am I talking of fawning, fear filled submission by the woman. I am talking of a strong woman who chooses to align herself with her man and accept his headship and leadership, accepts him as her prophet (spokesman of Yah), priest (minister of Yah) and King (judge of Yah).
I was a Lieutenant Colonel in our Citizen Force (part time army), I attained that rank because I was good at submitting to my superiors – I aligned myself with them and did their bidding because I recognized and respected the chain of command. A strong, submissive woman does the same for her man.
The man and the woman cannot both be the head and Yah has ordained that the man should be the head. The modern rebellious, feminism, women's lib, etc are NOT from Yah, they are from the dark side.
Yah intends strong, powerful, empowered women to work alongside their men and lift their men up toward Yah and assist their men in every possible way.
Key to this is for the woman to be in total harmony as a conscious act of the will as discussed in articles a few months ago.
Conclusion
A woman who does not submit to her man in everything breaks him down spiritually, emotionally and physically and will eventually be rejected by Yah.
A woman who does the opposite will build her man up to be a powerful servant of Yah.
May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
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