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CHAPTER
8
CONSEQUENCES OF THE HERESY OF MONOGAMY
AND
RELATED FALSE DOCTRINES
A variety of
consequences flow from the heretical doctrine of monogamy and the
related false doctrines
discussed in this book. These are briefly summarized below:
72.
TOUCHING GOD'S ANOINTED AND DOING HIS PROPHETS HARM
Psalm
105:7-17, also reported in 1 Chr 16 states:
7 He is
the LORD our God; his judgments are in all the earth.
8 He
remembers His covenant forever, the word which He commanded, for a
thousand generations,
9 The
covenant which He made with Abraham, and His oath to Isaac,
10 And
confirmed it to Jacob for a statute, to Israel as an everlasting
covenant,
11
Saying, "To you I will give the land of Canaan as the allotment of your
inheritance,"
12 When
they were few in number, indeed very few, and strangers in it.
13 When
they went from one nation to another, from one kingdom to another
people,
14 He
permitted no one to do them wrong; yes, He rebuked kings for their
sakes,
15
Saying, "Do not touch My anointed
ones, and do My prophets no harm."
16
Moreover He called for a famine in the land; he destroyed all the
provision of bread.
17 He
sent a man before them-- Joseph-- who was sold as a slave. (NKJ)
1
Samuel 26:7-12 reports:
7 So
David and Abishai came to the people by night; and there Saul lay
sleeping within the camp, with
his spear stuck in the ground by his head. And Abner and the people lay
all around him.
8 Then
Abishai said to David, "God has delivered your enemy into your hand
this day. Now therefore,
please, let me strike him at once with the spear, right to the earth;
and I will not have to strike him a
second time!"
9 And
David said to Abishai, "Do not destroy him; for
who can stretch out his hand against the
LORD'S anointed, and be guiltless?"
10 David
said furthermore, "As the LORD lives, the LORD shall strike him, or his
day shall come to die,
or he shall go out to battle and perish.
11 "The
LORD forbid that I should stretch out my hand against the LORD'S
anointed.
But please, take now the spear and the jug of water that are by his
head, and let us go."
12 So
David took the spear and the jug of water by Saul's head, and they got
away; and no man saw it or
knew it or awoke. For they were all asleep, because a deep sleep from
the LORD had fallen on them.
(NKJ)
Here we clearly see
David, years after he was anointed by God to be king over Israel in 1
Samuel 16, fleeing
from Saul who was rejected by God from being king in 1 Samuel 15
(before David was anointed), refusing
to kill or even harm Saul when he had the opportunity. If it was so
clear to David whom God calls "a man
after my own heart" in 1 Samuel 13:14 and Acts 13:22 that he should not
exact judgment or vengeance on
Saul or even kill Saul in self defence, then surely it is inconceivable
that there is any circumstance in which
any one today should do anything to harm any man whom God has anointed
or whom God may have
anointed?
Yet I have heard a
number of messages preached and also read a number of texts which
condemn Abraham
as an adulterer because he took Hagar as a second wife. Other messages
condemn David for having adultery
in his heart and therefore marrying more than one woman against the
word of God. In the process the church
totally destroys the standing of Abraham and David as Patriarchs who
should provide role models for Godly
men in marriage and sets up it's own pagan standards. At the same time
God, Himself, is made out to be
capricious and to condone sin because he still used Abraham and David
"despite their adultery"! Surely this
is the most apalling heresy?! In the process the real definition of
adultery is totally hidden from view and
adultery is rampant with the blessing of those who set themselves up to
judge Abraham and David!
Thus we see that
men and women who truly are seeking to love God with all their hearts,
all their minds, all
their soul and all their strength (Deuteronomy 6:5, Mark 12:30 and Luke
10:27) may well find themselves
facing a harsh judgment (James 3:1) and possibly cast into outer
darkness.
Matthew
22:13-14 states:
13 "Then
the king said to the servants, 'Bind him hand and foot, take him away,
and cast him into outer
darkness; there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.'
14 "For
many are called, but few are chosen." (NKJ)
Where they may
genuinely have expected themselves to be called up higher at the feast
to a place of honour
or even to have sat on a throne with Christ for eternity. Joyner, on
page 118 of The Final Quest, reports that
most of the thrones in heave are currently heaven but that Jesus says
that they could have been filled in any
generation. Joyner also reports a "great reformer" and others who are
greatly esteemed on earth who today
are situated in the outermost courts of heaven because they failed to
do what God had called them to do and
caused others to stumble! Surely, if you love God and fear His judgment
you must revise your thinking on
the issues raised in this book and proclaim these truths from the roof
tops.
73. A
STUMBLING BLOCK FOR THE JEWS
Most Jews know that
the Bible permits a man to have more than one wife, for example, The
Living Torah,
in a footnote to Exodus 21:10 states:
another
wife, Polygamy (sic) was permitted
by Torah Law. It was only forbidden later by a ban
pronounced by all European rabbis under the leadership of Rabbenu
Gershom (circa 965-1029).
Apart from the fact
that this text uses the term Polygamy to describe Polygyny (a man
having more than one
wife) a widespread semantic error referred to in more detail in section
7, page 17, it makes it quite clear that
scriptural marriage in which a man can have more than one wife, was
still practiced by the Jews until about
1,000 years after the death of Jesus Christ. Maurice Lamm, in his book,
"The Jewish Way in Love and
Marriage", published by Jonathan David Publishers, Inc, Middle Village,
New York 11379 in 1980 reports
that this ban was "renewed for all Jews by Israel's Cheif
Rabbi when it expired in 1950. Known as
the 'Cherem de Rabbenu Gershom,' it is in force regardless of the
wishes of the husband or the
consent of the wife."
From considering
other sources regarding the systematic distancing of the Gentile church
from the Jewish
roots of Christianity as a consequence of Roman influence as early as
300 AD resulting in steadily increasing
persecution of Jews, it appears that the Rabbinical decree was as a
consequence of increasing persecution by
the Roman church seeking to enforce the proclamation by Justinian
enforcing monogamy about three hundred
years earlier.
On the few
occasions where I have found myself in conversation with Jews on this
matter it appears that the
rabbinical decree is widely known as is the fact that monogamy is a
Roman heresy instituted by the Christian
church. It seems that in at least some Jewish quarters this is taken as
a further indication that Jesus Christ
could not possibly be the Messiah. This, in turn, must surely be a
contributor to the difficulty that most Jews
have in accepting conversion to Christianity. Surely this reason alone
is sufficient grounds for any person
who has the Love of God shed abroad in their heart (Romans 5:5) to
urgently seek the proclamation from the
roof tops of the true doctrines of Jesus Christ concerning marriage?
74. A
STUMBLING BLOCK FOR MOSLEMS
For the same reason
as the heresy of monogamy is a stumbling block for Jews, it is surely a
stumbling block
for Moslems. I have personally verified that in Malawi the church will
permit a Moslem man with more than
one wife to keep his wives but if a man converts he cannot take any
more wives. The consequence is that
when a man comes to the point of accepting that Jesus Christ is Lord he
frequently chooses to delay giving
effect to that decision in order to take his full quota of wives
against a possible future decision to convert to
Christianity.
In the process,
Islam is making great inroads in Malawi and elsewhere while
Christianity struggles to make
an impact in Moslem areas, converts are murdered and great resistance
is encountered. Surely this must at
least in part relate to the very visible error of the Christian church
in the area of marriage?
We must also surely
ask ourselves whether it is a coincidence that Mohammed, a man with a
number of
wives, several of whom were reportedly Jewish and Christian, came to
prominence at about the same time
that Justinian made monogamy the legal marriage doctrine of the Roman
church while at the same time the
Roman church was departing more and more extensively from the teachings
of scripture and the Lord Jesus
Christ and the Holy Apostles and in the process taking harsher and
harsher measures to persecute unbelievers.
Is it beyond the
bounds of possibility that Mohammed could have indeed been sent by God
as a prophet to
warn the church but, because of persecution eventually turned away to
some greater or lesser extent? Do we
in fact know for sure that Mohammed was not a true prophet and that our
understanding of his teachings is
distorted? Is it possible that the Moslems today have more of the truth
of scripture than the Christians? I do
not know the answers to these questions but they are questions which I
believe that every concerned believer
who calls themselves by the name of Christ must surely ask themselves.
For surely if we have the pearl of
great price, the key to salvation (Matthew 13:45-46) and we have hidden
it behind heresy and false doctrine
so that it is not available to billions who are perishing we will face
great weeping and wailing and gnashing
of teeth (Matthew 8:12, Matthew 13:42, etc) when we come to judgment?
75. A
STUMBLING BLOCK TO BUSINESS EXECUTIVES, GOVERNMENT LEADERS,
LEADING SPORTSMEN AND THE MAN IN THE STREET
As the Lord has led
me into more and more revelation on this topic I have also seen
repeatedly through the
Newspapers, secular television, magazines, etc the extent to which the
heresy of monogamy proves a
stumbling block for business executives, government leaders, leading
sportsmen and even the average western
"man in the street".
Consider the recent
press reports with regard to President Bill Clinton of the United
States of America and
his female aid, Monika Lewinsky. If it were not for the heresy of
monogamy, President Clinton would have
been free to have had sexual congress with the staff member concerned
and to take her as one of his wives
or concubines. The only prerequisite would have been that she were a
virgin. If she were not and that were
known to the people that would perhaps have been legitimate cause for
the outburst of righteous indignation
that followed. Instead, we see a situation where a supposedly Christian
doctrine comes close to destroying
the career of one of the most prominent men in the world and we must
wonder if he can ever reasonably
accept Christianity wholeheartedly when it so callously casts him as a
sinner for doing something that many
great patriarchs of scripture did - taking a concubine from his female
staff!
There have been
many other instances where politicians in particular have had their
careers destroyed because
it has been found that they have a mistress. Again, the second or
subsequent sexual relationship, which is the
cause of the storm, is not the issue, the issue in the sight of God is
whether the mistress is another man's wife. Again, the heresy of
monogamy clouds the issue, causes the term "adultery" to be distorted
and abused and
scriptural adultery spreads like a cancer through the world as a
result. At the same time, can there be any
doubt that many men in these positions turn their back on Christianity
because they know that the yoke of
monogamy is more than they can bear.
William Schnoebelen
in his book "Masonry, Beyond the Light" provides a shocking insight
into the occultic
and Satanic influences behind Free Masonry. He also reports that
promiscuity among Free Masons is
commonplace. Taking account of the factors addressed above, must we not
ask ourselves how different
things might be if the Christian church permitted a man to have more
than one wife? How many millions of
prominent men and women would turn to the Lord Jesus Christ if the yoke
of monogamy were destroyed?
Casual reference to
the newspapers and magazines shows countless sportsmen, pop stars and
other popular
heroes and heroines who move from one marriage to another. Serial
polygamy, as it is called, is rife in our
society and it is generally accepted AND permitted by the church that
over 60% of all marriages today will
end in divorce AND be followed by remarriage! Surely, if it were not
for the heresy of monogamy the
situation would be very different? Surely there are many ordinary men
who have ongoing sexual
relationships with more than one woman whose hearts desire would be to
establish a legitimate family unit
of a husband and several wives? Surely there are many others who, if
they had known at the start of their
lives that they could take several wives and had known how seriously
God hates putting away and what an
abomination adultery is in the sight of God and what adultery really
is, would today be living their lives very
differently?
Many of these
people know at least that David, Abraham and Solomon had more than one
wife. They hear
Christian leaders declare the Bible to be the Living Word of God and to
be inerrant and, in the next breath
same Christian leaders declare that God has ordained monogamy. I have
seen internationally recognised
Christian leaders stand up before congregations running from 3,000
upwards and preach a message based on
scriptures relating to David, Solomon, Abraham and others and in the
same message condemn men who have
come to them to say that the scripture permits a man to have more than
one wife. This is done without a shred
of acknowledgement that such a teaching is gross hypocrisy. How can any
rational man or woman respect
a religion which states that the Bible is the word of God, teaches from
scriptures relating to men who clearly
had more than one wife and, in the same message, condemns any man who
takes more than one wife?
I stumbled on that
one point when I was about eighteen years old and nearly ended up in
hell when I was forty
years old as a result. It was only by the grace of God that I was
brought back from the very edge of the abyss
to serve Him and to discover the truth of His Word in this area. I know
of others who have also turned their
back on a faith which was very dear to them on the basis of this
hypocrisy!
76.
SERIAL POLYGAMY - CHURCH SANCTIONED ADULTERY
The situation in
the world AND the church today is that more than 60% of all marriages
end in divorce and
most of the divorced parties end up remarrying. According to Jesus in
Matthew 5, Matthew 19 and Mark 10,
reported in section 8, page 19, unless those people were permitted by
Yahweh to divorce on the grounds of
porneia (section 23, page 87) they will be committing adultery.
Yet the "christian"
church advances all sorts of apologetics as to why serial polygamy is
permitted while
refusing steadfastly to examine their own doctrine to see if it is
contributing to the problem.
77.
PORNOGRAPHY - A WESTERN "CHRISTIAN" EVIL?
As I have gained
revelation in the areas addressed in this book I have become
increasingly aware of the extent
to which pornography in the western world specifically in Europe, the
USA and South Africa as the parts of
the world that I have experience of, appears in some measure to seek to
compensate for the constraints
imposed by monogamy and it's related false doctrines.
Some surveys
indicate that as many men as women read pornographic magazines and
watch pornographic
videos and movies. Most of these appear to focus on situations which
result in effectively surrogate
additional wives and sexual situations which might occur in a household
with with more than one wife. Based on a casual survey a few years ago
where over the space of several days in London and western Europe
the Lord led me to visit a number of locations where such material was
on sale, scan the material and then
leave I concluded that about 50% plus of pornography features
monogamous male - female interaction, about
30% features several women without a male presence and about 15%
features a man with more than one
woman. The remainding 5% or so depicts more than one man with one woman
and male - male (homo)
sexuallity, about 1% is bestiallity, child sex, sadism and masochism.
Superfically, about 70% of what is
portrayed, taken on a case by case basis, represents sexual acts which,
if they took place within a Godly
marriage in private, are not prohibited by scripture. The remaining 30%
or so represents acts which are an
abomination in the sight of God. HOWEVER, insofar as they are publicly
on display, they are objects of lust
and to all intents and purposes every single person who is pictured or
reported in these items is committing
adultery they are an ABOMINATION IN THE SIGHT OF GOD!
The question that
must, however, be asked is simply: if much of what is depicted relates
to a man having
sexual intercourse with more than one woman during the course of his
life, and if scripture permits him to
do that within the confines of marriage which requires that once he has
had sex once with a woman he is
responsible for her for life, if the yoke of monogamy was lifted, what
percentage of people who are now
living in adultery would be living in polygynous marriages which were
scriptural?
I do not know the
answer to that question, however, from my own life experience, I am
firmly convinced that
a significant number of people who are currently in hell or destined
for hell because of the heresy of
monogamy, could be saved. Consider Luke 15:1-10:
1 Then
all the tax collectors and the sinners drew near to Him to hear Him.
2 And the
Pharisees and scribes murmured, saying, "This man receives sinners and
eats with them."
3 So He
spoke this parable to them, saying:
4 "What
man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, does not
leave the ninety-nine in
the wilderness, and go after the one which is lost until he finds it?
5 "And
when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing.
6 "And
when he comes home, he calls together his friends and neighbors, saying
to them, 'Rejoice with
me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!'
7 "I
say to you that likewise there will be more joy in heaven over one
sinner who
repents than over ninety-nine just persons who need no repentance.
8 "Or
what woman, having ten silver coins, if she loses one coin, does not
light a lamp, sweep the house,
and search carefully until she finds it?
9 "And
when she has found it, she calls her friends and neighbors together,
saying, 'Rejoice with me, for
I have found the piece which I lost!'
10 "Likewise,
I say to you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over
one
sinner who repents." (NKJ)
Thus we must surely
conclude that if by lifting the yoke of the heretical doctrine of
monogamy even one
person more would come to salvation because the yoke that they thought
God wanted to impose on them
had been lifted, there will surely be rejoicing in heaven! For this
reason, if no other will sway you, dare
you argue for the retention of monogamy and it's related teachings a
moment longer?
78. MY
BEST FRIEND STOLE MY HUSBAND / BOYFRIEND
One of the
phenomena that seems to be fairly common in the society in which I live
is the phenomenon that
once a woman has found a man she finds she needs to protect her man
from her female friends. Monogamy
requires that two woman who are close friends must become bitter
enemies when a man arrives on the scene
whom they both desire to marry.
Scriptural
marriage, on the other hand, permits two or more women who are close
friends to all marry the
same man, remain best friends and develop their lives together with
that man for the rest of their lives. If you
dwell on this thought for a few minutes I think that you will see that
on this point alone there is a phenomenal
difference in terms of the relationships that exist in our society.
An extension of
this phenomenon is that a Christian woman whose husband starts in any
way to minister to
a single woman immediately becomes threatened and resists extending all
the love of God which she could
in case that woman gets too close to her husband. Scriptural marriage,
on the other hand, would regard it as
perfectly acceptable in the sight of God for that man to extend his
covering to that woman should he, his
existing wives and the new woman all agree that it was the will of God
for him to do so. In similar vein,
single women would not fear being hurt by men whom they perceive to be
"philandering husbands" who
show any concern for their welfare. It is a strange phenomenon of
monogamy that any man who is seeking
to become more like Jesus Christ and who experiences compassion and
concern for a single woman,
immediately is branded a philanderer and a cad. Monogamy has totally
perverted even the ministration of
the love of God through the body of Christ!
79.
TEENAGE NYMPHETTES
We have seen from
the Talmud, cited in section 63, page 183, that a girl becomes a
marriageable woman at
puberty which is about twelve and a half years old. As a consequence of
the teachings which deny this and
suggest that a girl should not marry before her late teens or early
twenties and that she should have a number
of "boy friends" before she has enough experience to choose which to
marry a number of situations develop.
Firstly, girls
still reach puberty at about twelve and a half years and for the most
part, become increasingly
sexually aware, conscious of their bodies and interested in babies in
the years immediately following. By the
age of fourteen as I understand it, most school teachers will report
that girls are excessively interested in sex. Some secular press
reports indicate that, depending on the community concerned, somewhere
between 20%
and 50% plus of fourteen year old girls have their first sexual
experience! Given that most of these girls will
be told by pastors, parents and teachers alike that they are not old
enough to choose a husband, all of these
girls will end up in adultery and headed for a part in the lake of fire
and brimstone!
Furthermore, from
our own limited ministry, we have repeatedly encountered women whose
lives started
going off the rails at about fourteen when they either had their first
sexual experience, were molested by a
father, step father, uncle or close family friend or in some other way
found their entire world turned upside
down. Secular magazines regularly report incidents where fourteen year
old "nymphettes" seduce their
teachers, the man next door, the husband of the family they are baby
sitting for, etc.
An alarming number
of women and by extension men, are headed for hell right now as a
consequence of this
false doctrine.
Consider this
statistic against an alternative whereby such girls would be married to
a man at least a few years
older than they who they could look up to, respect, reverence and
submit to and on whom all their girlish
desires would be focussed. Surely this is a far cry to a woman in her
late teens or early twenties who has been
badly hurt in half a dozen relationships where the relationship ended
because she refused to have sex or
because she agreed and then regretted it because she was "too young to
get married".
Surely it is time
that the church let go of it's unrealistic, impractical and UNGODLY
doctrines with regard
to the age of marriage and stopped condemning millions of women and men
to emotionally fractured and
distorted lives!
80.
WHERE HAVE ALL THE VIRGINS GONE?
A recent report of
a sex survey in the United States indicated that "less
than 5% of women are virgins on
their wedding night". Elsewhere the same report
indicated that "more than 60% of all women have had
sex with more than one man"! By extension, more than 60%
of all women and therefore probably
considerably more men are headed for hell or at the very least a part
in the lake of fire and brimstone if that
does not mean eternity in hell!
Surely the heresy
of monogamy and it's related false doctrines reported in this book
account for a significant
proportion of these people fate? In particular, in the USA, England and
South Africa most of those people
have probably heard some portion of the gospel of Jesus Christ but it
has been tainted by a pagan feast of the
sun rebranded as Christmas, a heretical doctrine of monogamy which
imposes a yoke that many are unable
to bear and numerous other factors which make Jesus Christ an
unatractive God to serve when compared with
the God of this world. Surely those of us who have, by the Grace of
God, come to some small measure of
knowledge of the truth can look down on them OR we can take a long hard
look at the polluted and distorted
Gospel that is preached and realize that there is a massive sheet of
panelling in the collective eye of the church
and start energetically seeking to pluck it out.
81. A
CASE HISTORY : CONSEQUENCES OF FALSE DOCTRINES AND ADULTERY
The following is a
case history of a man who is well known to me. It is presented in the
hope that it will
assist readers to understand just how terrible the consequences of the
heresies presented in this book are and
in particular the consequences of adultery in this life.
The story is as
follows:
"I
gave my life to the Lord in a traditional church at the age of about
thirteen and served Him
with some committment during my teenage years. At the age of nineteen,
having completed
military service, He spoke to me in a dream and instructed me to become
an altar boy at a new
church in my neighbourhood. I served Him there until I was about twenty
four years old.
"At about the same time that the Lord spoke to me,
Satan sent a woman across my path. At the
age of nineteen I was deeply emotionally hurt. At the age of eighteen I
fell deeply in love with a
girl of fourteen. She was the sister of my best friend at school, our
parents were house friends,
she lived less than a kilometer up the road from my house and we
started to see one another
regularly. We became deeply romantically involved to a point where the
desire for sex was
becoming uncontrollable. We broke off the relationship because we were
"too young". (Authors
Note: If you consider carefully the scriptural analysis presented in
this book you will see that this was
probably an ideal match in the sight of God!) On
the rebound, I fell deeply in love with another girl
of fourteen, again the relationship ended because we were "too young".
On leaving the army I
started dating the first woman I met. I was not attracted to her other
than the fact that she was
seventeen and therefore not "too young" and that she met certain
requirements of social
acceptability. After some time she seduced me, during her menstrual
cycle so that I never knew
for certain whether she was a virgin or not, but she told me she was
and I believed her right to
the end. (Authors
Note: notice the serious spiritual implications of a marriage
consumated during
menstruation, there are also possible connotations of witch craft)
"I
knew enough of the Bible to know that virginity was sacred before God
and that, in the sight
of God I was responsible for her. At the time I entered into the
relationship my mother warned
me against her, but I had listened to my parents on the two previous
occassions so rebellion crept
in. At that time I did not know about schizophrenia, psychopathy and
female sadism. Eventually
I married her legally and she bore me two children. The relationship
lasted twenty five years until
nearly broken emotionally and financially the Lord, through a prophetic
minister, showed me the
depths of emotional, psychological and spiritual abuse that Satan had
dragged me into. I was
being played like a fish on a line, lied to, lied about and betrayed
behind my back. She was
oppressed by spirits of witchcraft and a strong Jezebel spirit and
Satan was using her to destroy
me. Nevertheless, it took twenty five years before God permitted me to
divorce!
"During the relationship sexual deprivation was
used regularly to manipulate and control. In the
process I became dependent on pornography and, as I became more and
more reliant on
pornography to release my sexual tension my conscience became
increasing seared towards
sexual sin. Eventually, at age thirty eight, after my wife had
persuaded me to hire a woman as
secretary whom she knew had had sex with every man she had ever worked
with and after a year
of verbal abuse and sexual deprivation from my wife, I finally
succumbed to temptation and
entered into a sexual relationship with another man's wife!
"This woman had been gang raped at the age of
fourteen, started work at the age of sixteen in
a firm where the boss and his secretary were involved in a sexual
relationship and where regular
entertainment at the end of the working day was to watch the boss and
his secretary across the
road have sex on his desk! Her life experience effectively led her to
understand that sex with the
boss was a necessary requirement for employment. Accordingly, when,
following a particularly
vicious attack on me and my secretary by my wife, I made a tentative
sexual advance to my
secretary, the die was cast. She could not refuse, her life pattern
told her that but I did not realise
this then. Some weeks later the relationship was consumated and
continued for two years.
"Before we consumated the relationship we agreed a
number of things:
i. We were having the relationship because our
marriages were a mess but we intended to
save our marriages. Accordingly we would NEVER use the word love
towards one another.
ii. There was no obligation on either party to have
sex, it would only take place voluntarily
when offered.
iii. There were no limits on what was acceptable
sexually, we would never say no to one another
but we would never ask for anything the other could not give.
"Having agreed these three points we consumated the
relationship. Together with these points
were several implicit points which were never discussed but always
applied. Firstly that we would
always respect and esteem one another and that she would never consider
her sexual relationship
with me to change her status as my employee. Secondly that we never
thought of ourselves, we
always did what we thought was best for the other and gave whatever we
could which was in line
with what we understood their needs to be.
"The day the relationship was consumated, she
experienced her first orgasms with a man and,
at the end of the afternoon we experienced a dramatic simultaneous
climax. It was like nothing
either of us had ever experienced before, it was extactic and it was
beautiful. She told me that
I was the most considerate lover she had ever had, she had probably had
over twenty, and I told
her that at last I was A MAN!
"The next day, respecting the requirement never to
use the word love she told me that since she
was not permitted to be 'in love with' me she must therefore be 'in
lust' with me. We both knew
something had changed, we saw each other differently and there was a
closeness that could not
be described.
(Authors Note : The one flesh bond had come into existence)
"During the first afternoon of love making I shared
a fantasy about making love to two women at
the same time. It turned out that she was stimulated by the thought of
sexual intimacy with
another woman and with the fantasy. For the balance of the relationship
we regularly fantasized
about the presence of a second woman, both being sexually intimate with
me and with her. We
found that this greatly increased the level of arousal that we both
experienced and increased my
sexual capacity. At various times during the relationship we read
newspaper articles about men
with more than one wife and we talked about our relationship as my
effectively having two wives. We also discussed the practical benefits
of such a relationship in the light of our experience.
"During this period I also found that my sexual
capacity with my wife was also heightened. It was
possible for me to climax five or six times in one afternoon with my
mistress and then return home
and climax another couple of times with my wife. Interestingly, my wife
was more receptive to sex
after I had been with my mistress. Effectively my wife, who generally
had previously been
disinterested in sex was more interested in sex, even though she
theoretically knew nothing about
my affair. At the same time, I never found that my affair in any way
restricted me from meeting
my wife's sexual needs although it did enable me not to be subject to
sexual manipulation.
"In addition, after about six months, my wife's
menstrual cycle which had always been very
irregular became totally regular and synchronized with my mistresses
menstrual cycle which had
always been very regular. Their birthdays were two days apart and their
cycles ran within a day
of one another. At about that time I read an article on 'pheromes' and
concluded that in some way
some form of pherome or hormone was being passed through me between the
two women, even
though they seldom saw one another.
"All of this led me to conclude that God had
created me to be capable of satisfying two women
sexually. However, after the relationship ended and I came back to the
Lord I accepted the
churches doctrine of monogamy.
"The relationship continued for two years. During
this period I consistenly refused to see that I
was desperately in love with my mistress and she with me. I was adamant
that a man could only
love one woman. During those two years, everything in the business went
well and, for the first
time in my life (and hers) I was fulfilled as a man. We made love
passionately at every opportunity
and it was always extremely good for both of us. In two years we did
not have a single quarrel
and were in agreement about everything to do with the business. I
consulted her with regard to
business decisions and we ran the business together. In the process my
mistress became
increasingly concerned for my wife's wellbeing and even suggested and
made arrangements for
me to take my wife out to dinner and on holiday. It seemed that the
more she loved me, the more
she loved my wife!
"After two years my wife decided it was time for
the relationship to end and suddenly confronted
me with facts that had been known to her from the start of the
relationship. I was not prepared
to lie and confessed everything. At that time I was determined to end
my marriage and marry my
mistress. However, family pressure persuaded me to try and heal my
marriage. In addition, there
was something which would not allow me to leave my wife. (Authors note : The one flesh bond
again). Consequently, I terminated the
relationship but we decided that she should stay on as my
employee.
"After weeks of anguish, during which I discovered
that I was incredibly deeply in love with my
mistress and that it felt like my very heart was being ripped out, I
accepted that there was no way
that I could make my marriage work while my former mistress still
worked for me and I had to ask
her to find alternative employment. Having reached this decision I went
through absolute hell on
earth. After a few days I moved out of the family home into a hotel and
spent the night wondering
how I could best kill myself. I was devastated, I could not think of my
mistress without dissolving
into tears. My life was not worth living any more.
"At about 07h00 the next morning a voice spoke to
me and said 'phone ....., he has something you
need', the person mentioned was a business associate. I phoned him and
said .... I believe you
have something I need. He immediately knew what I was talking about and
that evening I had
dinner with him and his wife and they led me back to the Lord Jesus
Christ but in a way that I had
never known before. They shared there testimony of the supernatural
presence of God, of
healing, of prophecy, of divine provision and protection. I cried out
to God for forgiveness and He
granted my petition.
"In the days and months that followed I threw
myself entirely at the mercy of God. I knew that he
was able to heal me and deliver me, to restore my business and to heal
my marriage. I knew that
only he could do it and I devoted all my energy to seeking Him. I went
for counselling, I bought
books and tapes and spent every spare minute of my time reading the
Bible, praying, listening to
tapes, reading books, in church, etc. In the process, I fought a
massive battle with my intellect. I could not accept that the Bible was
the Word of God. However, after a few weeks, by faith, I took
a decision to accept the Bible as the the Word of God and prayed and
asked the Lord to answer
my questions. As I did, He was faithful and answered me.
"As I sought God, he repeatedly spoke to me about
making restitution to my former mistresses
husband. After the affair became known to him he could not contain his
jealous rage and came
round to my house with a fire arm to kill me. By the grace of God he
did not. It took her nearly
nine months to find a job and then at a much lower salary because she
could not give a
satisfactory reason for leaving my employ. The consequences of my
adultery not only caused her
husband enormous grief they also caused him serious financial hardship
over a number of years
and on more than one occassion the Lord instructed me to make payments
to them. On another
occassion the Lord required me to speak to him telephonically in order
to give him an opportuntity
to express what was on his heart. Amazingly, he forgave me and
commiserated with me about
my wife!
"About a year after coming back to the Lord and
after some dramatic supernatural encounters the
Lord clearly told my wife to speak to my former mistress. All hell
broke lose. Years later I
discovered that He had been telling my wife for much of the previous
year to apologize to my
mistress for setting up the whole affair! I also discovered that He had
shown her that since
scripture permitted a man to have more than one wife I had not directly
sinned against her!
"In the meantime, my business was going to the wall
in a dramatic fashion. I was losing business
and losing money. I was tithing in faith, I totally believed God's
promises but nothing helped and
no one could tell me what was wrong.
"Some months later I reached a point where my
former mistress was constantly on my mind, I was
deeply concerned about her and there were some things that I should
have said to her before the
relationship ended that kept troubling me. I had repeatedly been for
counselling to no avail and
had been brutally rebuked by my pastor because of my sinfulness and
unrepentant heart and told
to concentrate on making right with my wife for all the wrong I had
done her through my adultery. At the same time, the Lord was speaking
to me about the 'one flesh bond' of Genesis 2:24 and
I realized that I still had this bond with my mistress. I prayed to end
it, nothing happened. Eventually I phoned my former mistress. All the
things that were on my mind were on hers. We
discovered that we both desperately longed to see one another. I told
her about the one flesh
bond and we agreed to meet in the hope that if we prayed in agreement
the bond would break.
"We met and prayed. Nothing happened, I don't think
that deep down either of us really wanted
what we prayed. It was like we had never been apart. We started to see
one another, we
discovered that we had a near telepathic link, if she thought of me
phoning her I would phone and
vice versa. We were in torment and confusion. We had both reached
profound revelation of our
sin of adultery but now we found that we were still as in love as we
ever had been. I broke down
and asked her to marry me. By the grace of God she refused.
"Broken and desperate I spent the weekend
considering once more how best to kill myself. On
the Monday, with a Smith and Wesson revolver at my disposal in case it
did not work, I met with
my pastor. After three hours of heated discussion and argument he
eventually pointed out 1 Peter
3:7 to the effect that if my wife was not in agreement my prayers would
not be hindered and I
adamantly maintained that because I was one flesh with my mistress and
she could not be in
agreement with me, he reluctantly agreed to stand in agreement with me.
Knowing that if my
prayer was not answered I would blow my brains out I cried out to God
in the name of Jesus to
extend His Mercy and Grace to me to cut the one flesh bond. It was like
I was being pulled apart
by a massive bungee elastic rope and suddenly it was cut and I snapped
back together.
"The next day my business turned around. However,
my marriage continued as it always had with
strife, false accusations, back stabbing, sexual deprivation and
manipulation, etc.
"I continued to seek the Lord. He taught me about
deliverance and showed me a spirit of
witchcraft in my wife. I prayed and she was delivered but within days
resumed her behaviour and
it returned. He showed me books in her possession on the Satanic god's
of Egypt, Babylon,
Greece and Rome and told me to burn them. I fasted for her, I
interceded for her. Things
improved from time to time and then got worse. Sometimes she agreed
with me and the business
prospered and then, for no apparent reason she would start attacking me
and the business would
be attacked. She phoned my staff and partners behind my back and caused
several to turn
against me and leave. All the time I understood that I had no basis to
divorce her unless she
committed adultery and that I HAD to make my marriage work.
"Eventually, after another year, during which I
continued to seek God for the healing of my
marriage and to draw closer to Him and the Lord moved on several
occasions powerfully in my
life, He showed me that there were other grounds for divorce by way of
a vision that I had in
London, Englan. Through this vision, He led me to a Christian bookshop
in London where I
bought a book on Divorce in the Christian Faith, entitled "When the Vow
Breaks". That night, as
I read with amazement an open letter from a man to the woman who had
psychologically abused
him for so long, I realized that God, in His mercy and His grace WOULD
permit me to divorce.
"I decided to divorce but my wife asked for another
chance. I gave her a final ultimatum and she
agreed to go for counselling. Within weeks this fell flat and another
pastor who was telling me that
I could not minister in the Body of Christ while I had marriage
problems and had undertaken to
counsel my wife, failed to follow through. Six months later, seeing my
children increasingly subject
to the same psychological abuse I had experienced, I cried out to God
to take me out of the
marriage and save my children.
"In the weeks that followed, He showed me
prophetically that I had a massive wound in the back
of my spirit, and my wife, when confronted, confessed that she had been
deliberately sabotaging
me and stabbing me in the back for twenty five years. I subsequently
discovered that there were
substantial amounts of money unaccounted for as well. Within days of
confessing and repenting
she resumed her attacks. In the process, Jesus appeared to her in a
vision and required her to
do what he had been speaking to her about for three years, to contact
my former mistress,
confess that she had set up the whole affair, repent and ask for
forgiveness, she refused and
Jesus turned his back and walked away.
"Shortly after this, the Lord brought a mature
Christian woman, recently divorced after a fourteen
year abusive marriage to an unsaved alcoholic. into my life. Within
weeks He showed us both that
we were to marry and He took me out of my marriage and into marriage
with my new wife in the
space of three days. We walked by faith because we knew God was
speaking to us. We did not
even know the scriptures that pertained to what we were doing. We only
realized months later
that this was the only way I could have got free. If I had not moved
directly into another
relationship, broken the one flesh bond with my ex-wife and immediately
consumated another
marriage I would not have been spiritually strong enough to survive the
storm that broke.
"Both of us were unprepared for the storm that
broke. My ex-wife proceeded to spread the most
vile lies about me. The church through me out and incited other
churches against me. Pastors
who had counselled me suddenly took sides with my ex-wife. My family
distanced themselves
because of what people would think. No one asked me why I had done what
I had done. For a
year Satan, assisted by the church did all that he could to destroy us.
In one case, a prophetic
minister who was new to a church called us out in front of the entire
congregation, anointed us
with oil and proclaimed an extravagant blessing on us in while the
power of God fell upon us and
a T.V. camerman was 'slain' in the spirit. The next week we were thrown
out of the church as a
consequence of a view that God could not possibly have blessed us and
therefore the blessing
was in fact a curse!
"But the Lord was faithfull. He gave us the
scriptures to show that divorce was the issue of a
certificate by the husband, not a legal document. He gave us the
scriptures to show that marriage
was the act of sexual union in His sight and not a piece of paper
issued in a pagan marriage ritual. He sent prophets across our paths
with words of encouragement and confirmation that we were
in His will. In the process I made many mistakes and gave Satan many
footholds in my life,
permitting him to kill, steal and destroy in many areas. Eventually I
secured the legal divorce and
my new wife and I were officially married by a prophet of God in a
formal ceremony.
"Subsequently, I discovered that I still had
spiritual and emotional ties to my former mistress. Over
a period of time the Lord taught me about soul ties and those were cut
off, he dealt with me about
broken unGodly vows and promises. I had promised to marry my mistress
if I ever divorced. I had
to phone her and ask her to release me! He taught us about transfer of
spirits which takes place
during sexual intercourse and I received deliverance from a whole bunch
of demons transferred
through my adulterous relationship. He showed me that familiar spirits
gain legal right in one's life
in an adulterous or unGodly sexual relationship and I was delivered of
those. At the same time,
the corresponding familiar spirits on my former mistress continued to
try and make inroads into
my spirit and eventually my new wife contacted my former mistress to
offer to pray with her.
"Having dealt with all this and really believing
that there were grounds to believe that all the
spiritual links with my former mistress had been broken, the Lord
permitted me to come face to
face in a shop. My heart did somersaults and I went weak at the knees.
It was like I had been
hit with a sledgehammer! I was shocked and disturbed. Discussing it
with my wife the words 'love
never dies' hit me. I turned to 1 Corinthians 13:8 and found that it
stated that 'love never fails' and
that the context of the verse seemed to indicate that while prophecies
and tongues will cease, love
will continue for eternity. I found myself staring at a scripture which
told me that for the rest of my
life I would have to cope with the agape love of God in my heart
towards a woman who was
another man's wife!
"That has to be the most devastating consequence of
adultery there is! As I read 1 Corinthians
13, I realized that most of the attributes of love described there had
characterized my relationship
with my mistress. Consequently, the love that we had first called lust
after the consumation of the
relationship was in fact God's love, intended for husband and wife! I
cried out to God to kill this
love, to cut it out of my heart, to some how make it go away! Instead,
three weeks later he
permitted me to again see her in the shops that I might know that it is
not possible for Him to
destroy love, GOD IS LOVE!
"I have now more or less come to terms with this
revelation. I have accepted that I must
constantly ask God for grace to live with the consequences of my sin
without sinning further. I
have accepted that all that I can do when she comes to mind is to pray
and ask God to
extravagantly bless her marriage, to draw her and her husband close to
Him, to guide her to fulfill
her calling in Christ (she came to salvation as a consequence of her
revelation of her sin after the
relationship ended). As I do so the desire to have her as my wife has
receeded but it seems to
me that that burden may never fully leave me in this life.
"I can only close by exhorting you not to have sex
or marry any person unless you are certain that
God has ordained it and to advise you that adultery is indeed the most
dreadful sin against your
own body.
"Based on this experience I can testify that what
has been written by James Robertson in this
book reflects the true spiritual realities of marriage, adultery,
divorce and sexual relationships
between man and woman, as ordained by God, not as currently taught by
the church."
An extract from the
book "When the Vow Breaks", referred to in the above testimony, is
contained in
Appendix T, page 298, 299, 300, 318, 322, 327, 330, 331.
COMMENTS
This testimony
prompts a number of comments which confirm what is written elsewhere:
a. It is clear that
this man's life would have turned out very differently if a marriage
had been arranged
between him and the fourteen year old daughter of his family friends.
b. Young men and
women do not have the knowlege, experience or wisdom to choose suitable
marriage
partners. This should be the responsibility of parents and parents who
avoid taking an active role in the
selection of their childrens marriage partners do them a gross
disservice.
c. There can be no
substitute to the guidance of the Holy Spirit in selecting a marriage
partner.
d. If this man had
taken a second wife it appears that his first wife would have been
unable to use sexual
deprivation to manipulate him and that he might well not have become
addicted to pornography.
e. Based on his
positive experience with his business during the two years that his
mistress was in complete
agreement with him it appears that if a man has two wives and the
second is in total harmony and
agreement this will go a significant way to over riding the impact of
the disharmony of a first wife.
f. There is no such
thing as sex without love. The act of sexual intercourse is, indeed,
the Act of Marriage
AND the Act of making (CREATING) Love.
g. In a strange
way, despite the adulterous nature of the relationship, the principles
highlighted:
i. They never
thought of themselves, they always did what they thought was best for
the other and gave
whatever they could which was in line with what they understood their
needs to be.
ii. That they
always respected and esteemed one another and that the woman never
considered her sexual
relationship with her lover to change her status as his employee - in
other words she always submitted
to him.
iii. There was no
obligation on either party to have sex, it would only take place
voluntarily when offered
and there were no limits on what was acceptable sexually, they would
never say no to one another but
they would never ask for anything the other could not give.
give an indication
of what may be three of the most important principles of a Godly
marriage.
h. Man and woman
are physiologically and psychologically prepared for a relationship in
which there is
more than one wife.
i. The counsel of
the church is of no avail in many cases and the religious and Jezebel
spirit's in the church
are amongst the most vicious on earth today.
j. Marriage is the
sexual act between a man and a woman who are free to marry in the sight
of God.
k. There is much
that is not generally known about what scripture truly says about
marriage, much of which
has, I believe, been covered in this book.
l. The consequences
of adultery are indeed far greater than most people realise and they
continue long after
the sexual activity has ended.
Can
anyone doubt after reading this testimony that the impact of the
heresies and
false teachings discussed in this book are having the most horrible
impact on the lives
of billions of people. Indeed, any person who has had sex with dozens
of people can
expect to be in such a state of spiritual turmoil that they have little
hope of having
anything approaching a stable marriage life. The more they search for
peace and joy
in marriage with people other than their existing partners, the worse
it will become. This is perhaps the most sinister and heinous lie of
the entire heresy of serial
polygamy posing as monogamy. It progressively destroys the very fabric
of the being
of those it ensnares as they pursue happiness in the form of a fairy
tale monogamous
marriage with one partner after another!
May the Good Lord bring all who have taught and enforced this terrible
doctrine to
repentance that they may receive forgiveness in this life before they
are judged for
eternity!